“One flesh” is so understated and barely understood, definitely not taught.
What is “one flesh”
One flesh is the most intimate you can be with a partner, it is more than marriage , more than sex.
Mark 10: 8-9 and the two shall become one flesh'; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
To join on a spiritual and physical level through intimacy.
To give all of your body to your partner before God.
“Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does.
Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” ...1 Corinthians 7: 1-40
One flesh is explained and demonstrated many times throughout scripture….the man went in unto the woman and they became husband and wife, one flesh.
There is no such thing as sex before marriage because sex is marriage, marrying of two souls.
My favourite story is Jacob being tricked by Laban with Leah after 7 years of toil and Jacob went in unto her after a feast , in a tent and in the darkness of the night.
I bet anything that after the next 7 years he took a candle into the tent to ensure it was Rachel who he was going to go in unto next.
Sampson was to be wed but went off in anger before entering his bride and consequently she was betroved to another.
Priest performed weddings are not official until consummated also.
Romans introduced marriage, death and birth certificates to govern tax payments.
One flesh is mentioned a lot but no where do I find where a special person is required to join a man and woman , within churches yes but not within scripture.
How churches and people divert the truth over time, the Lord never seeks to place anyone between you and himself, Jesus made sure of that through his sacrifice.
“Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” 1 Corinthians 6:16
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14
Such an awesome quote.
Imagine if our youth knew that sex was not just an animalistic act but the joining of two souls for all lifetime.
That married couples sort the guidance of our Heavenly Father to counsel their union, that those couples turned to God for their answers instead of drugs, alcohol, pharmaceutical depressants etc.
Ever wonder why there is so much talk of adultery within scripture, if people believe there is sex before marriage and not “sex is marriage”, you can see why so much is said.
“Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
Now read again replacing “marry” with “has sex.”
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
There is always the issue of two people growing apart when living with God is not present
“All answers are within scripture”
There are divorce clauses within scripture, “let not man seperate after joining “ …..but !!!!!
If you are unequally yoked, one is with God and not the other, abuse, violence etc then you fall into the grace of God.
“But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. “ 1 Corinthians 7:15
Remember the Lord loves his children, he will stand by you, give you guidance and support within a marriage and out of that marriage.
There is always 2 people required to tango, there are always two stories and to make the marriage work, the marriage that the Lord holds so precious between man and woman….pray.
In prayer together or alone but in prayer your answers will come, forgiveness, not harbouring past events from yesterday, last week… 25 years ago !!!
Every day finishes with the closing of your eyes, do not harbour anger, resolve your differences.
To be angry is short term memory, if you sleep while still angry your neurological transmitters lock that in place changing it to a long term memory.
“In your anger do not sin” : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:26-27
Simply say out loud that you forgive the issue creator so that your ears hear and your heart responds.
Ask for forgiveness if you are the perpetrator, both of your partner and of the Lord for if you sin against your partner you sin against God for your union is three.
1 Peter 3:4
But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious
If you believe you have strayed from the straight and narrow path, if you believe you may have wronged… seek forgiveness, for no sin cannot be forgiven.
Dear Heavenly Father
Hallowed be thy name
I am a sinner
Please forgive me of my sins
Jesus died on the cross and was raised 3 days later.
I seek you Jesus in my heart.
To commit yourself to your partner as one flesh simply come before God as two and invite the Lord into your conversation.
Dear Heavenly Father we come before you as your children, born again Christians that have declared you Lord and seek Jesus in our hearts.
We understand your doctrine and attempt to be better humans each day.
I come before you to seek your blessing upon our union with my choice of wife/husband.
I acknowledge that my flesh will no longer be mine but the property of my chosen partner.
I will seek guidance from you through scripture to become what it is that you seek.
Etc, etc then consummation when ready, pray together as one flesh, respect your partner as outlined, be considerate, understanding, merciful, kind and righteous , placing the Lord first then each other equally after that.
Pray together and for each other at the least , mornings and evenings each day, giving thanks for your blessings.
You can refresh your relationship anytime the same way.
Like any journey, it starts with your first step.
Blessings to you all.